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Jan

Get Happy: De-Clutter Your Mind

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You might clear cobwebs from your home, but not apply the same principle to unwanted feelings. If so, you increase pain rather than heal it. Jealousy, hatred, sadness, frustration, and blame are heavy emotional baggage. If you want to get happy, it’s time to remove worries and start afresh.

What’s in your mind-closet?

You may not think you hold pain, but it lurks beneath the surface. When you’re stressed, it makes its presence known. Resentment, feelings of inadequacy, sour memories, and other examples of clutter take up the space where joy ought to live.

How you keep pain alive

If you revisit a worry, it deepens. Studies show memories change when you recall them as your feelings adjust the hue. Fresh details appear, so unhappy recollections can worsen if you examine them.

Sad memories spring to life when triggered and replay like classic movies. You visit old slights, failures, and mistreatment. Your mind might fill with anger about an unhappy childhood, regrets about a failed romance, or, embarrassment over words you wish you hadn’t said.

Revisiting worries about the future is harmful too. Your concerns expand when you focus on them and stress exhausts you. But, as worries are just thoughts you repeat, you can stop paying them too much attention.

How negative memories damage you

When you are upset, your immunity plummets and your body reacts as though imagined events are real. Concerns deepen and become extra engaging. You don’t want to visit them, but you fall into the rut of negative thinking.

Worries are mental energy. The more you think them, the greater their power. To reduce them, you must stop focusing on them. However, trying not to think of something makes you think of it even more.

Sometimes, you might prefer to shut worries away for good. They still harm you though. Just as you can’t fill a glass with water without it overflowing, you can’t stuff misery in your mind without producing tension, and you must transform it or let it fade.

How to reduce clutter

Your attention makes fear grow; without it, mental anguish will disappear. So, don’t avoid worries you want to experience less. Instead, allow them to surface and recall they are just thoughts and you can ponder happier topics. Then move your attention. Seek something positive. The lovely sky, for instance, or a happy face. Pour attention into positivity.

Note how uplifting topics make you feel. Where do you notice the sensation accompanying a sunset or flower for example? Maybe, warmth enters your stomach, or you are livelier. Move your attention to sensations that go with enjoying what you see.

Transform sad memories, considering what they can teach you. Patience, understanding, empathy, compassion, resilience; the past may offer such lessons you need to grasp before you progress. Perhaps, painful experiences can teach you to change, prompt you to help others, or make you more aware of what you want. There’s a lesson in every memory; use it to turn misery into strength and wisdom.

You can get happy by clearing out negative thoughts and starting afresh. Make the powerful decision to clean your mind-closet. Get rid of upsetting memories and emotions that erase happiness. The more you think helpful or joyful thoughts, the easier it will be to stop worries that plague you. Focus on what you enjoy and build energy to heighten contentment.