How to Deal with Social Anxiety


Social anxiety can stop you enjoying life. When you want to go to parties, climb the career ladder, or explore the world, negative self-talk brings your lofty ideas back down to earth with a thump. Your inner voice says the people you meet won’t accept you, you’ll appear foolish, or some other catastrophe will occur. Mindfulness and NLP can help you overcome your anxiety and make the most of life. Here’s how.

Understand the role of self-talk

Does a narrative flow in your head when you’re with people? If so, it offers advice on how to avoid disappointment and pain. You might not have considered your internal voice a valuable tool before since it seems to get in your way. Nonetheless, its primary purpose is to protect you.

The voice is your internal adviser rather than an enemy, but somewhere along the journey of your life it became amplified in social settings. Your adviser adjusted, setting itself to be on constant watch for situations with the potential to cause anxiety. However, understanding self-talk is a friend rather than a foe can help you detach and take charge.

Be mindful about the voice

When the voice pipes up, saying you aren’t good enough, recognize its aim is to make sure you avoid disappointment. What it says is exaggerated because it wants to help you evade the potential for pain, and if it suggests you’ll fail, there’s no reason to believe its guidance is right.

Your internal mentor tries to keep you in your comfort zone. As far as it’s concerned, carrying out the same old activities in similar ways keeps you safe. Consequently, when you try to stretch your boundaries, it does its best to stop progress.

How to lower the intensity of your internal adviser

Think of your adviser as an overprotective parent; the kind that stops its offspring from taking even the tiniest of risks, fearing the worst-case scenario might occur. It can be satiated with NLP to decrease its intensity.

Cut stress by being playful with your inner guide and you’ll learn you are in control. When a negative thought arises, alter how you perceive it. Make self-talk amusing–change it to a chipmunk or Mickey Mouse voice. The sound of a cartoon character isn’t likely to be regarded as meaningful.

Play with the voice over the next few days. Make it tiny, as though it’s coming from a snail, or sultry. Or make it sing words rather than talk. You can also picture a dial that controls its volume and imagine turning it down until it can’t be heard.

Gain control of the internal dialogue that produces social anxiety. Realize negative self-talk is a helpful tool working overtime, exaggerating concerns and holding you back. Be mindful about why it exists and change how it operates. Have fun with it and alter it until you can no longer take it seriously.