Taking Control after Weight Loss Surgery
There are a lot of things in your life that you can’t control. For example, you can’t control the weather, no matter how well in advance you plan your workout arrangements. You can’t control when a coworker will get sick, leaving you with more work to do. You can’t control how people in your own family will act, or how that may ultimately impact your plans.
Planning is great, but you need to accept what you can control and what you can’t. You can’t necessarily control what happens, but you can always control how you react to it. Keeping this in mind after weight loss surgery can help you keep your priorities straight and your mind focused.
The Power of “I”
You are the center of your weight loss program. No matter what happens, who you encounter, what family members need support, or how you feel about yourself or your weight loss progress, this truth never changes. When it comes to improving your health and losing weight, you are the most important factor.
Attempting to push your own needs off to the side or always putting others first will not help you in your weight loss program. Your needs, especially your dietary choices and your exercise habits, need to come first if you are going to reach your weight loss goal.
Using “I” statements can help you learn how to put yourself first by helping you make your needs and concerns clear to your friends and family members. “I” statements are especially useful when expressing your desires and feelings. To create an “I” statement, follow these four steps:
Step 1: Describe the behavior, circumstance, or emotion that is affecting you
Step 2: Describe how the situation is effecting you, and whether this is positive or negative
Step 3: Explain your feelings
Step 4: Explain what the other person could do to alleviate that stress.
For example, if you are frustrated that a co-worker continues to bring donuts to the office when you are trying to lose weight, you could politely ask them to refrain by making your feelings known in a polite but assertive way. For example, “I think it is lovely that you bring donuts so frequently, but I am trying to lose weight and the donuts are difficult to resist. I would be grateful if you would stop offering me a donut so frequently, and maybe not be offended if I do not take one.” This is a simple statement with an assertive core that can help you manage external temptation and stay focused on reaching your weight loss goals.